Toxicity

Late last month, Grant’s 10^th grade English teacher sent out an e-mail talking about a 30 day Digital Detox. Attached was an article from Forbes on 30 different ways to wean yourself from your phone:

https://www.forbes.com/sites/nextavenue/2017/01/04/try-the-30-day-digital-detox-challenge/#d0be71f3a3d2

On the first day of Lent I logged out of my Facebook and Instagram accounts.  I’ll have to admit that the first few days of not checking updates was awkward. To be honest I haven’t kept up with all of the methods described, nor have I kept a log on what I’ve been doing.

But I don’t miss either app, especially Facebook.

It’s Toxic.

Don’t get me wrong, I like cat memes as much as the next guy, but the political rhetoric he said / she said crap is a mind and time suck. As a colleague of mine once said, “it’s like babies tossing teddy bears out of the crib.” Like and share if you agree my ass.

To be honest there was a post from a friend that got to me and made logging off easier. It wasn’t a post of self-importance “look-how-much-money-I-have-and/or-look-how-cool-I-am-and/or-look-at-the-place-I’m-at-and-you-aren’t-here” sort of thing. It was a plain statement of achievement that now in my middle stages of life I know I’ll never attain. It was less of what he chose to share, but more of how I perceived it. It was a deep look into the mirror of opportunities squandered. I’m honestly glad for him, effort and attitude can take you everywhere you want to go.

Maybe the toxicity is in my own mind…..

And then COVID-19 has shut everything down. 

The social distancing aspect is something that I’ve been pondering. I get it, I understand the need. But in my mind, social media has already hardened us to this. Lately I’ve been concentrating on the network news, and many of the human interest stories revolve around community outreach and helping ones neighbor.

Wonderful, fantastic, heart-warming.

But the cynical side of me wonders if this is truly from the heart, or is this another ploy to get likes and shares of “oh look how giving I am.” Am I wrong?

We’re all in uncharted waters here. In our modern age we are all revealing how out of our depths we are. We’re hoarding toilet paper for God’s sake. I read something the other day that a couple made the headlines for trying to buy 19 cases of Mountain Dew. I’ll leave that there.

Here at work it has that Post 911 feel. Lots of uncertainty and rumors. Many of my coworkers have started working remotely, our parking lot emptying of cars while the ramp fills with parked airplanes.  Last weekend I got a phone call from my director telling me that I may have been exposed to someone who may be sick with the Virus. He told me not to freak out. I went ahead and freaked out a little anyway.  I’m not ready to see my parents on the other side quite yet. (I found out this afternoon that I'm in the clear for now).

So maybe the toxicity isn’t just in my mind. Like and share that if you agree.

I guess that I don’t know where I’m going with this. I’m just letting you all know where I’ve been. Maybe I’ll be back on Facebook one of these days. Then again maybe not.  Drop me a line and let’s catch up. I want to hear your voice and your laughter. And if need be, I can be there to try and console your cries. (edit: I also have the Zoom app - my "meeting room" is 985-003-6614 if you'd like.)

I'll keep my Instagram active because @hugothefierce still needs his public and truth be told I love artsy pictures. I'll probably put random sunsets on there so deal with it.

Maybe after you read the ideas in the Forbes link you’ll decide to digitally detox with me. If you do please let me know how it goes. I’m discovering new patterns and observing new paths. Life is difficult enough without trying to wade through unnecessary social media bullshit.

The fortune cookie that I cracked open the other day caught my breath in my chest a little bit; “The calling that has sounded will not be the lasting call.”

Wash your hands. Stay safe, stay clean. Stay sane. I'll be around.